Some time back,I dated this douchebag. No offence ,but he was actually a douchebag. I would use the name “Summer” instead. Summer was quite a good looking guy,slightly above average.
Here’s the tea,a childhood friend of mine who knew that i was really close to Summer,but had no idea it was more than that texted me with some question .She asked me out of the blues who Summer was dating .”nikacheza kimimi” and replied with another question,”Why ?”
The answer was shocking,”My friend ,from around your place has posted him and she insists they are dating.?”Well i told the chille that as far as I know,Summer is single so she should send me the screenshot of the post. She did and that night became quite a long night.
I was heartbroken 😂😭😭😭no lie,I mean,I thought we were something. I kept my cool and slept it away. Then confronted him the next day when i had slightly gotten over it. Well,guess what,he didn’t deny it at all. I wish he had though 😂😂.
He just said something in the line of,”She is the one that insists on dating me ,but you are the one that I love,so please give me time to break things off with her.”I swear on God that if I heard this statement one more time,I would slap the hell out of ones face,do I look like a joke to you?
I was innocent and hadn’t come across these male species ,so I understood and I fell for it. I jumped into a love triangle just like that.
I can imagine how flattering it was for him to have two female species battling for his attention,he had the power of choice in his hands .Buddy,if you get yourself caught up in such a triangle,you should ask yourself if the product is worth the trouble,in my case,it wasn’t.
Love triangles whichever way solved or dealt with,would result to pain and emotional wounds,to whichever party. Even if at the end,you are the victor,the emotional wounds will be there,trust me.
What to do if caught up in a love triangle??
Get real with yourself about the situation. It is not your fault that you fell for the guy who had you just as a choice.If you think,you can go through the trouble,drama and hurt,just that at the end you still with whom you love,then go for it. But dont forget to carry some airbags with you,just in case. You could always leave anyways. If you see it best to leave,and look for love in calmer waters. This is always the safer option. Lets be real,there is nothing okay with being in a a love triangle and if you tolerate being in one,you are allowing yourself being played in a very embarrassing manner.
In case you settled for the latter option,lets tread through the breaking things off and moving on.
Be blunt and tell the partner how things are and you cant deal with it. I wouldn’t advice listening to the explanations because you would likely be coaxed back into the stormy waters. Be calm and tell your partner you are done. You have every right to be dramatic,but rationality is best in this situation.
Acceptance .Dont cling to the fact that one day things would be okay and you would be the happy couple you were. Chances are,you could,but probability is,you won’t. So accept it,and move on and let the future have it’s own way without causing an emotional turmoil upon yourself.
The best way to moving on,is to take some time off and focus on your being. Spend some time with friends and family. Do some hobbies and work on yourself.